When you hope your dreams don’t come true

This post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group blog hop. The first Wednesday of every month is Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. The awesome co-hosts for the June 1 posting of the IWSG will be Murees Dupe, Alexia Chamberlynn, Chemist Ken, and Heather Gardner!

The other night I had a dream that not one, but two different people read my first book and hated it. Neither of them were people I actually know, one was a guy who came into my work and asked to read my book and then left me a long, detailed letter about how much it sucked. The other was an amalgamation of several people I know, a woman who told me to my face it was pretty awful and that the characters were terrible. Needless to say, I woke up a bit disgruntled and disheartened.

I work in the service industry–I’ve been a server and bartender for a long time. In the service industry there is a phenomenon jokingly called ‘server dreams.’ Because serving/bartending can be such a high-stress, anxiety-inducing job, many people who do it have nightmares weekly (sometimes nightly) about work. Dreams where they’re slammed with a hundred tables at once, or they can’t work the register, or all the food is coming out wrong, or everyone is yelling at them–it’s never something cool like someone giving  you a million dollar tip, it’s always a nightmarish hell where you forget how to do your job and all the customers hate you.

A few years ago I started working as a bartender in a private airport club, which is MUCH more laid back and slow paced. Since that time, my server dreams have stopped, though I still have about one a month (but then I wake up grateful I’m not doing that anymore, instead of frazzled).

…now I’m having AUTHOR DREAMS!

Geez, it never ends, does it? Next I’ll probably dream I’m doing a book signing and someone walks up to me, hits me across the face with my book, and tells me I’m a disgrace to the writing community (don’t get any ideas, brain).

Have you ever had a nightmare about your writing?

42 thoughts on “When you hope your dreams don’t come true

  1. How horrible. I’ve yet to have dreams like those but I have had dreams that inspired stories. And as soon as I wake, I try to hold on to what I remembered to write it down and file it away until there’s such a time I want to tackle it.

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    1. I’ve had dreams like that too! I’m pretty bad at remembering them, though. I should try that method of writing them down before they escape.

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  2. Maybe that means you’re arrived?
    I’ve had a couple of those. Nothing like your subconscious telling you that you suck.

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  3. I had a nightmare about a previous job before and was told it was a good sign, that I was working it out in my sleep because I was learning/adapting. I’ve never had a nightmare about writing though and now I’m wondering if that should worry me. I’ve had good dreams but never nightmares. Watch now tonight I will. Sweet dreams and thanks for sharing this!

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    1. Hahaha I hope you don’t! I agree, sometimes dreams help us work things out. I just wish they didn’t do it in such a painful way!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. I’ve had editing dreams before, where I edit over and over and over… LOL. Especially if I edit before bed. I used to have server dreams! Glad to meet another UF writer 🙂

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    1. LOL oh gosh, editing is bad enough when I’m awake, I would hate to have dreams about it! 😀

      (Hilariously, I had to go back and edit this comment because I left a word out.)

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  5. That sounds terrible! I just have general nightmares, but I hope I don’t get these! Glad to see you still have a humorous tone, though. Hope they stop soon!

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    1. Haha thanks! I hope you don’t either!

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  6. Better to yell at people in your dreams than in real life. Take advantage!
    Keep moving forward.
    Heather

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  7. No dreams the way you described but I have dreamed stories before and had to wake up and write them down. I don’t want to have that kind of dream tho cause I am hard enough on myself awake, lol.

    Happy IWSG Day
    Juneta @ Writer’s Gambit

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    1. Oh gosh, far more often I dream up what seems like an AMAZING story (at least in my dream) and then wake up and can’t remember it. It’s really aggravating. Maybe it’s not that great, my sleeping brain just thinks it is.

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  8. I was a teacher a long time ago, but I still have nightmares about a class over which I had no control. Never about my writing, though.

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    1. I’m seeing that everyone seems to have nightmares about their job. I don’t know if that’s comforting or terrible!

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  9. I can’t say that I have, but I might now. hehehe

    Anna from elements of emaginette

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    1. I hope you don’t! They’re not fun!

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  10. My day job is the head cook at a restaurant and I get those dreams all the time. They are the worst and always happen after a super busy day. I have yet to have them for my writing, but I did have a dream the other night my little sister was following me around and interrupting my writing.

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    1. Oh, a fellow service industry peep, yay! 😀 I’m starting to see a pattern here, everyone has nightmares about their job!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  11. No… not yet…
    Yours sound awful 😦

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    1. LOL at least they’re only dreams! 😉

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  12. I don’t have writing nightmares, but I do keep myself awake many nights with a voice in my head telling me how much I suck, my book sucks, my story sucks, and that no one would ever want to read such garbage. Yeah, that voice in my head is a real jerk.

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    1. Hey, I know that voice! How come we can’t have any nice voices, huh? Where’s all the voices in our head that have something positive to say?! I think we need to put out an APB for them.

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  13. Loni Townsend June 1, 2016 — 2:31 PM

    Yeah, I’ve been there before. It hasn’t happened in a while, but that’s probably because I’m such a slow writer. Hope you find less anxiety in your dreams!

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    1. Thank you! And thanks for stopping by!

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  14. I don’t think I have actually had a nightmare but my fears have awoken me from sleep until I was up fretting about deadlines and what I haven’t been doing. I love your post! Maybe try some essential oils? I have a great one I use before bed sometimes. 🙂

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    1. I’ve had fears that didn’t wake me up, but kept me from going to sleep, trust me! Good idea, thanks for the tip!

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  15. I have not heard of server dreams but that makes total sense! yes, I have author dreams that are not so good. It sucks. Luckily I have friends and a hubz who are supportive and talk me off various fictitious ledges.

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    1. Server dreams are the WORST. Like I said, it’s never anything good. And I’m happy someone else is having author dreams too and I’m not just nuts. Whew!

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  16. I haven’t had any nightmares about it yet, but once I had this dream where a well known agent asked if I would be her client. It was a wonderful dream, alas. I used to work in a movie theater serving popcorn and I often have dreams of doing that during a huge rush even though I haven’t had that job in, gulp, more than twenty years! Plus I have nightmares where I’m either the professor or the student and I’m not prepared for giving a lecture or taking a test. Those are the worst.

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    1. I think I might be even more mad if it was a great dream like that and I had to wake up from it!

      We all seem to have nightmares about our jobs, don’t we? It seems universal!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  17. It’s been a long time since I had a dream like that…or at least one I can remember. Here’s the deal: stay so busy that you fall into bed and don’t have time to dwell on your dreams, and they can’t bother you. 😉

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    1. That’s very good advice! Thanks for stopping by!

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  18. I’m continuously having bad dreams. Sometimes it’s about my writing. At least those dreams give you time to think what you’ll really do if you are ever in that situation. I’ll probably hit someone right back with the book. Probably not the best thing to do:) I have had people tell me that they hated my book. It hurt for a while, but I moved on because there were two other people who enjoyed it. No matter what, don’t let others see that they have rattled you. Do you and enjoy your journey. As long as you are happy and proud of what you’ve written.Don’t let others opinions and negativity spoil writing for you.

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    1. Very good advice! And I try to remember that opinions are subjective, too–I’ve found with my books that what one reviewer doesn’t like or complains about is something another reviewer absolutely loves. Not everyone is going to like what I write, but that’s okay, because some people do.

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  19. No dreams about being an author yet, but I’m still trying. 🙂

    My bad dreams usually involve realizing that I have a big presentation due at work, one that I totally forgot to prepare for. Shudders!

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    1. Ugh, anxiety dreams are just the worst, aren’t they? Seems like we all have them, no matter what we do.

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  20. I’ve never had a nightmare about writing – thank goodness. Because I live on a boat, my nightmares usually center more on weather related issues and my boat sinking. I think I’d rather have nightmares about writing 🙂

    BTW, I just read one of your books. Very enjoyable and a good read!

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    1. It seems like most of our nightmares revolve around our deepest anxieties, doesn’t it? Why can’t I have HAPPY dreams about becoming a bestseller?! (Though that would probably make me mad when I had to wake up.)

      Thank you so much! 😀

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  21. Megan,
    I’ve never had a nightmare about my writing. However, if I did, I’d wake up in sweat. Have you written your dream down? Dreams are funny. They sometimes point out our inner fears that are hidden deep within us.

    I would write the dream down in your journal and relax and wait and see what it is trying to tell you.

    Shalom aleichem,
    Pat Garcia

    http://www.patgarciaandeverythingmustchange.com/2016/06/iwsg-june-2016-recovery-is-not-matter.html

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    1. I haven’t written them down, but that’s a good idea! I’m sure it’s a manifestation of my anxiety about my books not being ‘good enough.’ Dreams usually uncover the things we’re trying to hide from ourselves while we’re awake.

      Thanks for stopping by!

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